I opened Miss Bee’s blog this morning and this photo jumped out, it shows us where we have been and the fact is we are going where we are going and we have very little control over that. Miss Bee did not explain herself but I immediately knew what she wanted to say.
You folks know that I have been on a 44 year journey with Miss Bee and yesterday we learned that that combined journey could end soon. During my visit with my favorite doctor, Dr. Green we learned that my chemo treatments have stopped working and that the lung cancer has reappeared in my right lung with free cells found outside the lung. That prompted discussions about serious stuff, like how much time do I have, what can we do now. Dr. Green suggested that we be certified for HOSPICE which we have done. Care and comfort treatment will be provided by them for the balance of my time. Dr. Green and Dr. Wacks will still be my doctors but any medication/equipment needed will be provided by Hospice of Palm Beach County, which just happens to be among the best in the country. Since Daughter #1 is working with Hospice for many years now we know a lot about it and realize what an excellent service Hospice provides.
Time: how much, who knows, not me for sure but whatever will be will be, wow, that made me remember Doris Day, you youngens will not know who I am talking about, in the 1950’s she did the following song…
Que Sera, Sera
Whatever will be will be
The Future's not ours you see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will beI am not wanting to make a lot of people sad, but if you got a little extra love to spare, take it over to Miss Bee’s place and give her a big hug.
79 comments:
Dear Charlie!
I understood the deep sense of Miss Bee's choise!
You are a couragious Man, you know,how to face every evenience, we trust your docs, the treament...we trust You!
A great emotion for me, Sarge, I don't know what I'm writing in English...I beg your pardon!
big hugs to you and Miss Bee!
xoxoxoxoxo
Sorry, Sarge. I really hate to hear that. Don't know what to say or if there is even anything I can say that would help. I will say I have enjoyed your blog and intelligence you have presented here, as well as your passion for our great country. Thank you for the ideas and thoughts you have given me and I wish you two the an easy time of it. Love ya, Man!
You both have my love, you dear, sweet man. xoxo
Sweetie, no one knows when their time is up. I know you and Bee will live your lives to the fullest, every single day. You have set that good example, and will continue to do just as much as you possibly can.
Dick and I both send our love, dear friend...
Sweetie, no one knows when their time is up. I know you and Bee will live your lives to the fullest, every single day. You have set that good example, and will continue to do just as much as you possibly can.
Dick and I both send our love, dear friend...
Oh sweetheart. Ah Sarge, I had the feeling that things weren't good because you seemed to be getting a bit weaker lately.
I am so sorry honey that your time is short. You are a wonderful blogger, and have been so interesting to read for so many years now.
Your love for Bee is a touching thing to read/know, and your honesty and wise political opinions have kept me amused and informed.
I am glad your daughter will be of help with hospice.
I dread your not being here. It will feel very empty without you. Although we never met in person, I have felt that i "know" the two of you.
Many, many, many many hugs sent your way.
I will pop over to Bee's with some love as well.
You will be missed enormously, Sarge.
Blessings to you for all that you have done that is good, in all directions of time.
Love,
God bless you Sarge with peace and love. Your family is very special.
MaryC
Sarge, of course we have no words. How can someone you barely know have touched your life so deeply. You sir have done that along with your beautiful wife. I have made a vow in your honor to become a crazy hugging lady to every veteran I meet. You and I both know I lean a bit to the left of middle, but you might make me re register and vote in the spirit of Sarge. You are so wise and have so much love. I will never forget that first tip of that hat you gave me upon meeting. I will always have your smile in my heart that makes me wonder what you are up to. I can only hope to live my life with the love and honor you have. I don't believe I can come close, but no matter the time any of us have left on this earth, I will keep you in my heart urging me on to be a better person. I also know another day will come that we can really sit down and have the long conversations that I long to have with you.
Much love, hugs and prayers. I salute you Sarge!!
Bobbi
Oh my sweet Sarge... So sorry to hear this. You know I'm right there with you. Sending hugs and thoughts and prayers through that quilt.
Keep going, my dear. I'm praying for strength, wisdom, faith, and peace.
P.S. I second what SandyB said. Couldn't have said it better myself.
PS Sarge, I remember that song playing as the intro to that song and everyone knows I am not nearly old enough to remember that :)
You have lived a good life, a happy life with our miss bee. You have wonderful children, you have touched many lives including mine. You served your country well. You haved open many a liberal noodle brains ,brain :) next stop heaven. I love you and miss bee. I know you thru your written words. See ya upstairs Sarge! Love Callieannbrat
(((((hugs))))
What an amazing life you have led; thank you for your service to our country. Praying for you and sweet Mrs. Bee!
I'm so sorry to hear this news. You have touched so many lives, loved and served your country and have been an inspiration. You are Loved, what more can one ask for.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers! Now, I'm off to visit Mrs. Bee!
Best of luck to you and your family Charlie. Here's to your rest and comfort. Cheers!!
Matt-Man
Sarge,
I'm sorry that I've not met you before. Cinderella told us about your story and I came over to visit and share my prayers with Miss Bee and you.
Praying for peace and comfort for you both in the coming days.
~ Shari (proud USAF spouse)
Wow, I am so sad to hear this and I am honestly in tears. Both you and Bee hold a special place in my heart. Lots of hugs and prayers for you both.
RoseAnn
I read this earlier and had to leave for a while to collect my thoughts. I don't have a clue what to say, other than echo what others have said.
You have touched so many hearts, and I am so thankful to have had the opportunity to get to meet you and Miss Bee. You have taken us along the path of your life as we learned about your roots, your homestead, your family, and how hard you worked. We traveled to Vietnam Nam and saw a snippet your of service that produced our Sarge! You took us on a wonderful ride with you and the love of your life.
We've sailed the high seas with you and coveted just a smidgen of molten lava cake! We seen what a remarkable change occurred in Chuck's life and how proud you are of him!
What a marvelous example you are of what a loving
husband should be. No one doubts how very blessed you
two are...
The roughest path lies yet ahead, and will require much, but as Sandy B said, none of us knows how long our journey will last. You are a hero in so many ways and will always remain so.
Wally and I continue to pray for you and send our love. (even though he doesn't blog, he says he feels like he knows you and Bee because I'm always talking about something you posted!)
You take care of you and enjoy the sunshine and your wonderful, lovely Miss Bee.
~~~Blessings~~~
Sarge - I hurt knowing you are hurting! I wanted to take a moment to thank you for all your teachings on this great country of ours! I learned so much from you and I am proud to say you are a friend! I will continue to pray for a miracle and hope that you feel no pain or sadness! God loves you and Miss Bee and I love you both!
Hugs
Lynn
I'm so sorry to read this, Sarge.
I'm praying for strength for you and your wonderful wife. The love you two share is indeed magical.
God bless you and Bee. Sending big hugs from Connecticut to Florida.
I sensed this from Bee's blog yesterday, and am praying for you both and sending love and hugs.
As I sit here watching the cursor blink in front of me, I'm just not sure what or how to say it. I wish that I could say that I am shocked by this latest bad news in regards to your cancer but sadly, having lost my father to this very same cancer almost nine years ago, I knew the path that your journey would take and I knew that it would eventually get to this point. As my father's oncologist told him, "We can treat Non-Hogdkins Lymphoma but we can't cure it."
Like my father did, you have fought a very brave and long battle against this insidious disease that was foisted upon you courtesy of your exposure to Agent Orange and you have fought it very well. You are one of the bravest soldiers I have ever met and I am very proud to say that I've had the extreme privilege and honor of meeting you in person. Who you are on the pages of your blog is who you are in real life - a patriotic, courageous, loving husband and father, and a good and decent man.
Just recently, before my best friend lost her ability to speak because of her advancing ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease)and the fact that she's now on a ventilator for what remains of her life, we talked about whether it was better to know when the end of your life was approaching or not. It's a tough conversation to have with your best friend of 28 years who is dying way too young but we came to the conclusion that perhaps it's better to know because that gives you the chance to tell people those final things you want to say and they in turn can tell you.
So please allow me to say how much I have enjoyed reading your blog over the years - the wonderful reminiscences of your youth, the deep and lasting love of yourself and Miss Bee, the fun of your cruises, the pride and frustration in your country, and even your fight against this rotten disease that is taking you way too soon. Thank you for being one of my first regular readers and for being the kind of man who says what he means and means what he says. Thank you for not backing down to your detractors and sticking to your guns in spite of the name-calling and mean-spirited comments. And thank you for sharing your love story with Miss Bee - like the time you spent in DaNang and the disease you brought home with you, that's something else you share with my Dad as he and my Mom had the same sort of relationship as you and Miss Bee ... two people who truly have become one in the bonds of matrimony and who have shared the ups and downs of life together and come through stronger and more in love than when you started out.
I sincerely hope that you aren't going to get there any sooner than you have to but when you get to heaven, I want you to look up my father (retired Air Force MSgt Kendall B. Orlomoski) and tell him that I love him and miss him and get him to show you around a bit, you're two souls cut of the same cloth and two men that I admire greatly.
As you fight this last battle, I salute you, Sarge, and wish you strength and peace as you begin to answer the Lord's call to come home. God bless you and thank you for your service.
With love and much respect,
Linda
I'm very sorry to read this. You and Bee are very much in my thoughts.
Oh man! So sorry to hear that, Sarge. Hope you have much more time then they think. Enjoy every day and know that you are both in my thoughts & prayers. Today and always!
Love & big hugs from Ohio,
Ivanhoe
Has Matt emailed you? He emailed me briefly saying he's super busy, trying to get his Mission Commander qualification done before they come home.
Anyway, I asked him and we decided that we want to come see you during his POM leave after deployment is over.
I love you!
Ah, Sarge, this is just so sad. May our Lord give you and Miss Bee grace and peace today, and the days to come. I'm so glad I found your blog.
I know you will face what is to come with grace and dignity. And Miss Bee will have the memories of being your true love for 44 years.
Sgt
We don't comment often but I do read you and Miss Bee's blog every day. I am so sorry to hear this news and you've got a whole slew of kitties sending your warm loving purrs.
purrs
>^,,^<
♥Abby♥Boo♥Ping♥Jinx♥Grace♥
I read Miss Bee's blog everyday. And am sending good thoughts your way. I hope the dr's are wrong and I only hope that you do not suffer.
Hang in there, Sarge. It ain't over 'til it's over. I wish you the best.
we have no words only lots of love and {{HUGS}} from all of us. You and Miss Bee have touched our lives. My dad had comfort care for a short time before he passed in October, and I will forever be grateful for their kindness and support.
Love MeezerMomMary and the kitty army who loves you and Auntie Bee - Sammy, Miles, Billy and Nicky
Oh Sarge! How can I not be sad? Knowing that you and Miss Bee are being faced with this! I'm thankful that you have each other, that you have your family, and that you have your friends. These are things that cancer cells in your lungs cannot take away from you. I love you my friend and I am praying for you. God is good all the time.
Dear Sarge, even though you delivered such sad news, you managed to make me smile when included Que sera sera. Thank you for all the times you made me smile.
Dear Sarge, even though you delivered such sad news, you managed to make me smile when included Que sera sera. Thank you for all the times you made me smile.
Hi Sarge,
As a Vietnam Navy veteran (USS Kitty Hawk 1964 and 65), I read and appreciate your blog all of the time and have seen nothing but strength, honor, love of country, God, and love of your wife with a lot of common sense thrown in for good measure. My wife and I go on cruises, too. It sounds funny but every time I hear "Anchors Away" I almost tear-up from my experiences in the Navy. When I think of you I think of the Army's Song, previously know as "When Those Caissons Go Rolling Along." When I hear that song I think and will always think of you. God Bless.
Ronald Dawson
Sarge, we came to know you and Miss Bee through Jeter Harris' blog. Two very nice people in a sad situation but singing a happy tune. Thanks for the good example. We send a hug and pawhugs for you both!
sweet sarge... these words make my heart hurt. Please know my prayers are lifted for you and miss bee. sending you oodles of hugs, love and prayers.
~AM
Been out of the blogging loop for a while, Sarge. I still write on my own but don't visit others. I just wanted you to know that we've added you to our prayer board at home. The kids, Brien and I will be praying peace to you and your family during this time. I pray that The Lord will bring comfort to your family and that you can enjoy your life to the fullest. ♥ from Arkansas!
Dear Sarge lots of purrrs and prayers for you and Miss Bee!!
Your TX furiends,
Charlie -
I take joy in having met you on the Transatlantic Cruise and having become good friends over the last three years.
What saddens me is that we did not meet until so late in life - I truly believe that, had we met earlier, we would have become lifelong friends.
Celebrate life - you have been blessed with many things. A wonderful, long marriage to a beautiful woman. Beautiful children and other relatives.
Surrounded by family and friends, you will be at peace the remaining days here on Earth. On the day that you finally choose to leave, you will be greeted at the gates of Heaven by an honor guard - of this I am certain.
All our love,
Jon & Kathy
You and Empress Bee are in my prayers.Big Time Hugs to the both of you.
I gotta say reading all these comments has me tearing up again. I love you so much.... Hang in there. I dont really have the right words to say, and dont really want to post the right words on the freaking internet anyway. Just know I LOVE YOU!
Sarge, I am so very sorry to hear this news. You and Bee are in my thoughts and prayers.
Jackie
I found your blog a few years ago through Jeter's blog and I am so sorry to hear this sad news. We are thinking of you both and your family and you are in our prayers.
Sue
Sarge, I have lurked around your blog for years (I am a cancer survivor myself) and I am sad to hear your news. I am sending you healing and strength for your journey but hope you can have quality life for a long as possible.
I admire you tremendously.
Jan (Milo and Alfie's mom) xx
I will go over to Miss Bee's and offer my support but first I wanted to tell you how very sorry I am.
I have enjoyed getting to know you Sarge. Please know that you are in my thoughts and I wish you healing and strength for your journey. My hope is that you can have a quality life for as long as possible.
~Alasandra
I don't usually comment here Sarge but I just want you to know I'm sending positive thoughts and oodles of Reiki to you and will keep you in my prayers. x
We are so sorry to hear this and are praying for you and for Miss Bee.
The Florida Furkids
Sarge, I am sending my strongest prayers to both of you, and the Meezers are sending their strongest purrs ...
(((Hugs)))
Jan, Momma to Sabrina, Sam and Simon
Adding my prayers for you and Miss Bee. The thoughts you share here have made me smile on many occasions:)
What Chuck said.
Strange how we have no more control over the trillion of cells in our bodies than over a rock or a tree. The fight against cancer, these crazed cells spreading, is a daily concern for all of us who have cancer. I feel for your condition but am happy you have a lifelong friend to share a re-birthing when it arrives. Godspeed and know you will be in our prayers daily.
Sarge, my mom (now gone) sang that song to me when I was just a little one, so it has special meaning for me.
I'm sorry to hear this news...I'm praying and the cats are purring for you and Miss Bee.
Sue
Island Cats' mom
No words. Just a virtual hug from a fellow blogger in Ohio.
Love and prayers for you, dear sir. Thank you for your service to our country, for your contributions to this crazy blogging world, and for sharing your life and love with a wonderful woman.
Sending you strength...and peace.
oh, mr sarge, sir--no wait! our daddy allus sez sargents ain't a "sir" acause they WORK fur a livin' inna militery--we is sorry to hear this. *gentle headbonks*
we unnerstans completely. our mommer an' dad has hadda do this hospice thing fur fambly twice inna last year, an' they knows it is wunnerful. so they (an' we) wishes you well of it, an' are confident that you an' miss queen bee will haff the best all the way to the last, an' beyond.
we sends you mighty purrs an' best fishes!
edmund, nitro, xing lu, igmu
dbd
mommer & dad pierce
Dear Sarge,
Once I stood on the other side of the line on which you now stand. Not where you are, but close enough to have life snap into clarity. Yet when I looked back at my wake, I had nothing like the waves you are trailing. Honor, Duty, Friends, Family, Love. So few of us do.
You are a very special man, and we are all lucky to have been granted the opportunity to read your story of love and grace. It has changed me in certain ways, good ways, and I am most grateful.
I continue to pray for you and your family, and again, I thank you for your service.
dee (TK and Squashies)
Sarge, we are ending you love, hugs and purrs. Hospice care is the greatest gift anyone could give you and Bee. I do remember Doris Day and the song! Not all of us are so young.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Sarge, we are very sorry to read this. You have been fighting a good fight, but it seems your body is done. We are sending our bested purrs and prayers to you and Miss Bee.
Meowm Rhonda, Junior, Orion and Sammy
Sarge,
We have seen you & Bee around the Cat Blogosphere and you comments at the different blogs, but mainly at Daisy's.
We send purrs and virtual (((hugs))) to both of you.
Sarge,
We are so sorry to hear this sad news. And yes, Maw watched that movie over and over when she was younger. Que Sera Sera.
We are sending you tons of hugs, purrs, and purrayers during this difficult time.
Luf, Forty Paws Cats and Maw
I haven't post here before, but I hope you'll accept a hug before I go to your wife's blog and hug here too.
(((Sarge)))
Sarge! I am so sorry to hear this! I am thinking of you and Miss Bee both.
You are a great man!
We've never commented on your blog but haf kept up with you through the Cat Blogosphere. It saddens us to hear this. Just know that there are many of us praying for you and Aunt Bee daily. xoxo
Sarge, we are very sorry to hear your latest news on your health. Cancer takes too many too soon. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Miss Bee and your family.
Jade, Myst, Blackie, Cocoa & Jen
sarge, purrrs and soft furry headbutts
Blessings to you! :-)
Peace
Sarge...man...I've been stalking your blog for a long, long time, because Jeter and his mom said you were an upstanding guy, and I like upstanding guys. And they were right...you're wicked cool and I wish I was half as strong.
I'm gonna be thinking good thoughts and sending about 439 kinds of Mojo your way.
A salute to you, Sarge.
Your attitude about this sad news is an inspiration, and keeping both you and your wife and family in my prayers. Glad that you have positive feelings about hospice, it can be such a comfort and blessing. May God wrap his loving arms around all of you with the 'peace that passes understanding' in the days ahead.
My best to you and Miss Bee, Sarge. ::salute::
Sarge, we will miss having such an American fighting man among us. Fair winds and following seas. Semper Fidelis.
We are very sorry to hear this news. You have many purrs and prayers coming your way and I hope that love gives you comfort. (((hugs))) to you all
Hugs and purrs and slobbery dawg kisses to you and Miss Bee.
The Mom is keeping you both in her thoughts and prayers.
Dear, dear Sarge..I have enjoyed your blog through the years.
Blessings to you and your Miss Bee.
(((Hugs)))
~ The Bunch and Mom Bobbie
Sending hugs and prayers for both you and Miss Bee.
Pax
[Downunder]
I don't know that I've commented on your blog before. I follow AirmanMom's blog and see your comments to her sometimes, and click the link to see your blog occasionally. When I do, I usually go back and read "old" posts of yours whose titles catch my eye. This would be one of them.
(((hugs))) Sarge... and Miss Bee...
May God bless you both in your journey, now and forever.
Rie Rie
I left my feeling son Miss Bee's page but will say again, ANYTHING you need us to do, say it and I will do all in my power to do so. I love ya Sarge
Dear Sarge,
My Mama lost her battle with cancer last year, and I vividly remember the days after her doctor gave us this kind of news.
My heart and prayers to you and your family. You and Bee were two of the first weblogs I stumbled across years ago, and I have loved reading excerpts and details of your lives and family since.
We may not have always agreed on everything, but I have always respected you as a man who loved his family and his country.
I too thank you for your service. I've enjoyed reading your memories, wisdom, and insight that you have shared here with us.
I ask God to walk with you on this part of your journey. To give you peace of heart and mind. To ease your body. And to enrich your soul.
You are a good man. And the comments here are such a warm testament to how your words have touched so many people...most of whom you have never even met in person.
My best to you Sarge.
god bless yoo sarge
God Bless you Sarge. You will be missed. We will never forget you but we know that you are home with God now. We are all better for having known you
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